Shine Through

Shine Through

Attachment

The idea of reaching happiness by means of something outside oneself leads to dangerous attachments.

Because they don’t recognize the impermanence of both, the wanted objects and themselves, most people chase after something ultimately meaningless.

Recognizing the impermanence of outer and inner phenomena while wanting to give others what they need, is the antidote to attachment, stinginess, and greed.

In this way, attachment transforms into a lotus flowet, which purifies and nourishes everything.

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Jealousy

The concept that one owns another person, and therefore has an intrinsic right to him or her, causes massively disturbing jealosy and envy.

Jealousy is probabily the most peculiar and useless of all disturbing emotions because it neither relates to an immediate action or concrete situation.

If jealousy has struck, a good method for dealing with it is to deliberately focus on developing one’s abilities and to spend a relaxed, good time with friends. Then, one can later examine if there was an actual cause for the cloudy mood.

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Anger

Aversion, anger, and hate develop from the ego to protect itself from the effort of avoiding something unpleasant. Many people, though not the happiest ones, know surprisingly quickly and accurately what they don’t like. They look at mistakes and shortcomings rather than the richness of the world and their own possibilities.

Many will benefit if a couple manages to avoid pointless quarrels and instead develop an understanding of the impermanence and the contitioned nature of all outer and inner phenomena for the good of all.

If the two manage to learn more about the relationship through mature observation, then anger transforms into the wisdom of seeing things as they are.